”Winning is not a sometime thing; it’s an all time thing. You don’t win once in a while, you don’t do things right once in a while, you do them right all the time. Winning is habit. Unfortunately, so is losing. “ – Vince Lombardi
Good morning peeps, meditation done.
Quote for the Day:
“Winning is not a sometime thing; it’s an all time thing. You don’t win once in a while, you don’t do things right once in a while, you do them right all the time. Winning is habit. Unfortunately, so is losing.”
My first competitive football was for the cubs, I played for Hunters and every game I would somehow manage to get in a bicycle kick the trade mark of my hero Pele (who I would meet later in life working for Umbro, my room mate and partner in crime Jimmy Barba, who is now a star in Italy after being a finalist in Italy’s “Big Brother”, managed to get a football signed by him and despite a frantic search, I couldn’t find a spare football in time for Pele to sign, even though we were at a football manufacturers conference and I was unbelievably disappointed, so much so it diluted the thrill of meeting my hero).
In one glorious final we managed to beat our local rivals Trackers 11-2 and I scored 4, much to the humiliation of my lifetime long best pal Pricey (David Price).
On a trip to Australia in 2010/11 to see England win the Ashes, I was in Sydney wetting the baby’s head to celebrate the birth of David Ertle’s new born son with a group of old school mates who now all reside in Sydney, reliving the glory with “Turts” who scored a hat-trick, and “Woo” our very short goalkeeper, much to the chagrin of “Crovvy” and “Pricey”.
From those early days, I played football to win, I hated losing and that feeling has never gone away. When I became a dancer I found it was very competitive just like sport you had to audition to win roles, I played the lead role of Franz in ‘Copellia; at the Urdang Academy of Ballet and Performing Arts School show in my graduation year choreographed by Terence Etheridge.
Then when I left school you had to audition to get jobs, it was like a cattle market, a bit like what you see in the Boot camps on X Factor literally 100’s of dancers all auditioning for the same jobs, dancing against each other, then standing in lines waiting to be picked or rejected, until you got down to the final few and got the job.
It was not for the faint hearted or insecure, but that was how you had to get jobs to make a living.
I used to work all the time, travelled the world, staying in the best hotels, working with the biggest starts, performing in front of huge crowds live and on television. These were the rewards you would get for winning as a dancer, it was a great life and I loved it.
When I retired from dancing hanging up my dancing shoes and tights and swapping them to get back into football boots and tracksuits when I became a Football coach. I became even more obsessed with winning and all the small details that were involved in ensuring victory for your team on a regular basis.
I read the books of the world’s most successful coaches in a variety of sports, Sir Alex Ferguson and Jose Mourinho from Football, Sir Clive Woodward from rugby and the legendary Vince Lombardi from American Football, who is the author of today’s quote.
They all ensure winning was a habit for their teams.
Dictionary definitions of habit include: an acquired behaviour pattern regularly followed until it has become almost involuntary; a regular tendency or practice, especially one that is hard to give up.
In other words, repetition of the same physical action can eventually become an automatic reflex. Habits are repeated actions that ultimately can help people achieve their goals.
Habits are routines of behaviour that are repeated regularly and tend to occur subconsciously. Think about how you acquired the habit of brushing your teeth.
Do you ever stand at the sink and say, “I think I’ll skip brushing my teeth today and just brush my teeth longer tomorrow.” No, you don’t. Why? Because the action of brushing your teeth became a habit.
The process by which new behaviours become automatic is habit formation. Habit formation is modelled as an increase in automaticity with daily repetitions.
To create a habit, you need to repeat the behaviour consistently. Breaking habits is very difficult, even when you are motivated to do so. It can take much longer than many people think to form a habit, and it is very important to persevere and have a clear reason or goal for doing so.
It takes an average 66 days to form a new habit, according to new research by Philippe Lally and colleagues from the Cancer Research UK Health Behaviour Research Centre, based at UCL Epidemiology and Public Health.
Although the average was 66 days, there was marked variation in how long habits took to form; anywhere from 18 days up to 254 days in the habits examined in this study.
As you would imagine, drinking a daily glass of water became automatic very quickly, but doing 50 press-ups before breakfast required more dedication, and obviously time.
The 21- Day Myth
A lot of people think that you only have to stick with something for 21 days for it to become an ingrained habit. The magic number 21 creeps up in many articles about forming a new habit or making a change, but little is known about the origins of the ’21 days’ claim. So where does the magic 21 days figure come from?
Extensive research by many scientists and psychologists leads only to one source. In the preface to his 1960 book Psycho-cybernetics, Dr Maxwell Maltz, a plastic surgeon-turned-psychologist wrote:
”It usually requires a minimum of about 21 days to effect any perceptible change in a mental image. Following plastic surgery it takes about 21 days for the average patient to get used to his new face. When an arm or leg is amputated the “phantom limb” persists for about 21 days.”
Why this evidence by one random plastic surgeon has become so widely used as an untrue generalisation for habit formation is inexplicable and unclear.
There is no quick fix, winning habits have to be formed and carried out everyday to ensure results
To achieve anything in life you have to have a goal and work hard every day to reach it.
Two of my childhood heroes were Daley Thompson and Muhammad Ali, both of whom I have had the pleasure of meeting and working with.
In Daley’s case, he has become a personal friend, business partner and the man who keeps me motivated and in tiptop shape.
When I was in London training with him on Saturday mornings at Battersea Athletic Track, he always used to say to me, “Adj, you need some fitness goals, otherwise you can’t train properly.”
I never really understood what he meant at the time, but I do now.
Here are two quotes from my lifetime idols and inspirations to illustrate what I have now learnt.
“What keeps me going is goals .” – Muhammad Ali
“Competition is my life; winning is my only goal.” – Daley Thompson
It was their goal to win, to be the best, to win the Olympic gold medal, to be world champion, to be the greatest; that is what kept them going, even when they didn’t want to.
The goal of winning kept them focused. They had a vision, a dream, and nothing would sway them from working towards that goal every minute of every single day.
This is what we need to do in our own lives. We have to set our own goals and focus on them every day. We can’t let ourselves be distracted by things that take us away from our chosen path, whether it be to lose weight, give up cigarettes, run a marathon, break under 10 seconds in the 100 metres, start a business or save up to buy a house.
Make sure you are getting into your own winning habits everyday.
Start right now, today, Monday the start of the week of the last month of the year. Do not wait until 2017 to take the winning steps to reach your goals.
Have a marvellous Monday peeps and a wonderful week.
Breathe, Believe and Achieve
Be Happy, Healthy and Wise
Keep on Winning Smiling and Living the Dream